I’m watching a reality television show right now, titled “True Tori.” The show is about the famous daughter of Aaron Spelling, Tori, and her relationship with her husband, Dean.
In the episode I’m currently watching, Tori made a statement “I want a knight in shining armor.” She went on about how she grew up watching princess and fairy tale movies and how she loved them. Tori also said “I’m waiting for Dean to make one big, grand gesture.” For those of you who don’t know, Dean cheated on Tori a while back and it’s been scandalous tabloid news. Poor Tori is waiting to be a princess in a fairy tale, and unless you’re Kate Middleton, that’s not going to happen. Plus, Kate is a duchess, as lovely as she is, she still wasn’t crowned as a princess!
Maybe Tori has acted in too many television shows and movies that she doesn’t realize any more that life isn’t a fairy tale? My fiancé isn’t always a night in shining armor, sometimes he’s a knight in rusty armor. I’m not always the lovely princess he would like me to be, sometimes I’m more like a housemaid in rags. But at the end of the day, as rough as the day may have been, as long as we are still truly devoted to each other, then that is all that matters.
An apology also doesn’t have to be in a form of a grand gesture. Sure, could Dean go out and buy any fancy diamond ring he wanted for Tori? Of course he could, they are a celebrity couple bringing in more money than I could ever fathom. But if the sincerity isn’t there, the raw honesty that comes with being sorry, then that grand gesture of a diamond ring means nothing.
I have a Pandora charm bracelet. I love it when I get a new charm! Never once has my fiancé gotten a Pandora charm for me as a grand gesture for being sorry. Why? Because it’s flipping ridiculous! I don’t need a piece of jewelry to know he’s sorry. Just like I don’t have to buy him an expensive book he wants when I need to apologize. Most of the time a warm embrace and “I’m sorry” whispered in the ear means more than anything that could be bought in the world.
I doubt Tori will read this because I’m just a young woman with lupus who has a Tumblr. But I hope she can one day see that you can’t dwell on what someone has done wrong forever. Few things in life are truly unforgivable. Life also isn’t a fairy tale, I’m sure even royalty have rough days, weeks, months, or possibly years. Grand gestures mean nothing without real love and honesty behind it. No one is perfect and we all make more mistakes in life than we care to admit to others. Life goes on and we have to go on with it.
If life were a fairy tale, I don’t think any of us would be able to feel what true love is. We would just take it for granted, not knowing what it felt like when it was taken away. Much like Tori, I wish my life was better, but in very different ways. I don’t wish though for my life to be a fairy tale because I might forget how truly lucky, blessed, and gifted my real life was and is today.