I’ve created a world of advice givers just as I’ve created a world where people lean on me for support and advice.
Having been engaged for a few months now, I can say that it’s very different than dating. When you’re dating, it feels much easier and relaxed. It’s all about getting to know each other, having fun, and hopefully falling in love. Engagement is a serious commitment and the beginnings of planning your life together. It can be very stressful on both persons involved.
The way I see my engagement to Josh, is that it is practice for marriage. This is our time where we are able to work out little issues before they become big ones. We now have the opportunity to fully put our trust in each other. Josh and I have made the promise that we will one day be married and we will have the rest of our lives to nurture and love each other.
Being engaged takes two things, practice and patience.
Every day I get with Josh while we are engaged is practice for marriage. I am not the same Erika I was when I first met Josh, and the same goes for him. I am practicing ways to understand him, care for him, and love him better. Some days I do better than others, I know that Josh experiences that too. That’s when patience comes into the picture.
There are some days when I know I drive Josh absolutely crazy. And there are some days when Josh is difficult for me to deal with. But when we have those moments, it’s important that we both need to try to be patient with each other. When we listen to each other instead of talking over each other, when we actually know the facts instead of assuming what may be false, those are the things that help to keep our relationship in tact.
Josh and I still have some challenges to get through before we get married. Our relationship is far from perfect and no relationship can ever be perfect. All we can do as an engaged couple is to continue to give to each other. I believe the more good that you put into the world, even more good will come out. I apply that theory to my relationship with Josh, the more goodness I bring to him, the more goodness that will bless us in return.